SHOULD

This is a very good piece of thought

Take a look at an apple tree. These might be 500 apples on the tree and each apple has ten seeds. That’s a lot of seeds!

We might ask, “why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few more apple trees?’

Nature has something to teach us here

Its telling us:

“ Not all seeds grow. In life most seeds never grow”.

So if you really want to make something happen, you had better try more than once”.

This might mean

You’ll attend twenty interviews to get one job. You’ll interviews 40 people to find good employee.

You’ll talk to 50 people to sell one house, one car, one vacuum cleaner, one insurance policy or a business idea. And you might meet a hundreds acquaintances just to find one special friends.

When we understand the “Law of the seed”, we don’t so disappointed”.

We stop feeling like victims

We learn how to deal with things that happen to us.

Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to understand them and work with them.

In a nutshell, successful people fail more often. But they plant more seed.

When Things are beyond your control, here’s something that you must not do so as to avoid misery in your life.

+ You must not decide how your think the world SHOULD be.

+You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave.

+Then, when the world doesn’t obey your rules, you get angry!

+Household income for everyone SHOULD at least RM5900

+That’s what miserable people do!

On the other hand, let’s say you expect that:

+Friend SHOULD return favours

+People SHOULD appreciate you

+Planes SHOULD arrive on time

+Everyone SHOULD be honest

+Politician SHOULD tells lies

+Your wife or girlfriend SHOULD remember your birthday

These expectations may sound reasonable, but often, this thing won’t happen!

So you end up frustrated and disappointed. There’s a better strategy. Demand less, and instead have preferences. 

For things that are beyond your control, tell yourself

“I would prefer this, but if that happens, it’s OK too!” This is really a change in mindset. It is  a shift in attitude, and it give you more peace of mind

You prefer that people are polite, but when they are rude, it doesn’t ruin your day! You expect your girlfriend do care to you, always ask you, but when she stopped, it doesn’t matter. 

To become happier, we either need to

+change the world, or

+change our thinking

It is easier to change our thinking!

In a nutshell, it is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your attitude attending to the problem that is the problem

It’s not what happens to you that determines your happiness. It’s how you think about what happens to you!

Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly

#pray20cent

15 steps to be a high achiever!

Hi all! Having trouble to achieve your goal? Let’s learn something from the information that I had digest from nowhere. No matter what you are (school leaver, med school graduate or brain surgeon) 

1. Have a Goal

Many people without a goal, be it short term or long term, find themselves stuck in a dead-end job just for the sake of having a job dread each working day.

2. Take Responsibility

If you want to be somebody, you’ve got to learnt to take responsibility for all your actions. People who are not responsible usually are not reliable enough to be trusted.

3. Be Productive

Every second counts. Michael Dell built his own computers when he was just 18. What did you do when you were 18? 

4. Get Motivated

People are always gonna bring you down, or add negativity to your life by telling you that you can’t make it. Discouragement can be like poison to a person’s life and career, so be careful

5. Get the Edge

In any industry, there will always be another clone just like you. It’s important that you stand out and get the edge over your competitors.

6. Be Cautious

There will be people around you who are out to get you, and they may be your best friend, your neighbor, etc. We’re not asking you to be paranoid, just little cautious.

7. Get Experience

No matter how book smart you are, nothing come close to live experience. Bill gates didn’t finish Harvard. Many people have been hired ‘cause they’re good at what they do, not for their college degrees.

8. Take Risks

High achievers are always the risk takers. No one can guarantee success by that, but neither can you by playing by the rules. Make decisions with your head, but when needed, follow your gut. 

9. Be Persistent

No one is that lucky to have it all at first try. Success comes with hard work and ever greater persistence. Never ever give up no matter what everyone says.

10. Predict Consequences

Knowing what’s coming up next and predicting the consequences ensures that you’ve got a safety net when you start to fall. That way,you can always bounce back up again.

11. Be prepared to fail

Nothing’s guaranteed, but failure is. Failing to prepare is preparing to fail. Yet, with so much preparation things sometimes doesn’t go the way you want.

12. Be Creative

Thinking out of the box is always good advice. Being creative means there’s no one like you, and that idea makes you special and much sought-after. Don’t be afraid to cross borders.

13. Sell Yourself

Good packaging makes people think that you can deliver what they want to achieve. Always learn to sell yourself well to your clients, and when they believe in you, that’s when people turn to you.

14. Be Thankful

There are stories where high achievers forgot their roots and those who helped them on the way to the top. Remember to acknowledge and be thankful, always be humble. Don’t let success get to your head.

15. Solve Problems

Don’t give questions, give solutions. The one thing everyone looks for is always a solution, and when you’re the only one providing the solution, you basically have complete monopolization over the particular market.